Wednesday, April 2, 2008

I can't even

So much for brighter days or whatever bullshit I spewed in my last post. We had the rest of Bubba's IEP meeting today. I cried. A lot. I couldn't stop myself. And it sucked.

They took away his behavior intervention plan. Yes, the boy that was put in a seclusion room 2 years ago no longer has a behavior intervention plan. Why you may ask? Because he is not exhibiting behaviors that impede his learning or the learning of others. Never mind that the point of an intervention plan is to keep behaviors from happening. Never mind the fact that we have to medicate him. Never mind that by the time he gets home, he is so DONE he is explosive and emotional.

Actually, when it was all said and done, the accommodations and modifications were well captured. He is getting the services I feel he needs. I didn't fight about stuff that was ridiculous but whatever.

But the behavior business really set me off... It was the same LEA who set off what became the chain reaction in Kindergarten. God help me if we have a repeat of that year in any way, shape, or form. I don't think we will. I truly don't think we could possibly. But you better bet I didn't sign anything accepting the removal of his behavior intervention plan.

Hubby of course wants to strip Bubba of all his medication (he is pissed too), and although I have silently threatened to do so many a time, I can't imagine putting Bubba in that predicament (crisis and failure) just to prove a point.

And if I ever hear "He's like any other 2nd grader" in the same breath as "Well, I don't expect him to be able to do that like the other kids" ... well, I may just cry one more time.


Casdok said...

Good that you didnt sign anything.
I used to cry at IEP meetings, i can just about hold off till afterwards now.
Glad he is getting the services you feel he needs.

Kelley said...

Oh babe. I don't know what to say. I spend most of my meetings chatting with the teacher aide and Vice Principal. Then the teacher aide and I go off and do what we want. Basically I expect nothing so I am not disappointed.

But his aide is a Goddess and his teacher is getting there.

Niksmom said...

Oh my. Kind of a mixed bag isn't it? I'm so sorry the IEP was upsetting for you. Can you discuss it with B's doctor (about the meds) and get some sort of outsied recommendation that the behavioral plan needs to stay in a sort of scaffold (is taht the right term?). One wouldn't/shouldn't expect that it's ok to send a child home in such a state that s/he is unable to cope.

One thing our advocate reminded us of (before we pulled Nik from school) that we need to argue for is the fact that our children don't LIVE at school; they must live int he rest of the world and part of school's job is to prepare them for that. In Bubba's case, it sounds like taht should include a continuation of the behavioral plan/support.

Good Luck!

Stimey said...

That's so terrible. It's unbelievable that they doubletalk like that. (Well, it's actually really believable, but that's another story.) I'm sorry.

Mom to JBG said...

That sounds so maddening!

I'd document some of the things that happen at home after school, and keep bugging them til you get a new behavior plan.

Glad to have found your blog!

qw88nb88 said...

I'm aghast. Are they TRYING to make things difficult? Do they WANT things to go sour? Whatever happened to developing a SUPPORT plan?